Two Deep
23 MarResolution Add-on
27 DecTime to make your list of resolutions. Oh, yes it is. The obvious are there AGAIN – eliminate your debt, lose a few LBs, plan your day better, implement your plan efficiently. Then there is always the second tier of should dos and nice to-dos. I wanted to go ahead and point out another realm of resolution – the advanced realm of – NOT EVEN AWARE OF THESE SOFT SKILLS I POSSESS THAT I WILL CHANGE in 2011.
This is the type of year-end post that spews the leftover crumbs of the oft asked, if not daily, question, “Andy, what do you think about this?”
Although my wife and kids never recognize me for this attribute, I listen too well. I hear the subtleties in your presentation. In the spirit of the holiday season, sorry but I must ask – Do You Hear What I Hear?
I love the discussions with job seekers that are all about what they said, what the interviewer said, and so on. As much as I enjoy this back and forth with a job seeker, they mostly dislike the exercise. BUT – the point here is to examine what you are saying, what you are projecting and what they are inferring. Controlling the interviewer’s inference is critical and you are responsible for their interpretation.
Let’s talk the obvious ones first. My personal general favorite – flinching. Next, the word – “probably.” The phrases – “pretty much” and “I think so.” I think subtleties cost you. If you aren’t getting the offers to jobs you want where the chemistry is good, you are projecting tentativeness. Tentativeness does not begat reassurance. Reassurance is what you are closing the I want to work here deal with – we need the resolute “I can do it, I know I can because I have done it before, I own my desk” mentality. They brought you in so your skills are a given, chemistry gets you to the next round, reassurance solidifies employment.
What prompted this post was my recent exchange with a candidate and some things I look forward to pointing out to him. I had trouble reaching this candidate and he had trouble reaching me. It was frustrating for both of us. Believe me it pisses me off when I can’t reach people but I don’t project it (I bitch before the beep and after the hangup.) It clearly annoyed this guy. Did he say the words? No. He never said, “Andy, I am trying to reach you and it pisses me off I can’t.” It was the lack of self-control subtlety in his voice. Do you realize what you sound like? Do you? Think it but don’t say it. Think it but don’t show it.
As much as I appreciated his urgency in reaching me (refreshing), I didn’t appreciate the tone and actually considered not calling him back because of it. I write this because his entitlement refrain in the form of terse voicemail tidbits was not some calculated tactic nor was it compelling. Seething with entitlement, flailing job search guy lacks self-awareness. Seething with entitlement, flailing job search guy is not owning his search – not practicing a self-control he must possess. No wonder HR doesn’t call you back. They may be scared seething with entitlement, flailing job search guy will become angry, workplace violence guy.
Do You Hear What I Hear? Start listening to yourself. THINK. Check your subtleties at the interviewer’s door – in fact, just leave them in 2010. You may be entitled to unemployment compensation but you are not entitled to say anything like THAT. Hear what I hear.
Your Sixth Sense
19 MarI was asked to write a foreword for a friend’s e-book recently. I won’t share the exact title since it is not out yet but the book deals with secrets that recruiters won’t tell you. The time he took to put this resource together is testimony to his professional credibility – the only thing a recruiter really has to offer you. The only thing a recruiter has is credibility.
While writing the piece it dawned on me – sharing the secrets of the game with candidates is really what has differentiated my recruiting practice. That is exactly what has allowed me to enjoy life as a generalist recruiter – I am the recruiter that will tell you what others won’t.
The misnomer of recruiting, Folks – is that, as a candidate, you think your recruiter exists to find you a job. Most recruiters do genuinely enjoy helping people – but a recruiter is primarily looking to find their client the right person. We do not broker people, we broker jobs. Let me manage your expectations for a minute – you are two things to a recruiter – a human being and a commodity. You need to understand that. When a recruiter is talking with you, you are a human being. When speaking with their client, you are a commodity. A good recruiter knows how to treat you with respect even though you are a product.
As a candidate, what I think you should expect, if not demand, is the truth – and I would suggest you always look for congruence in your recruiter’s words and actions – tempered with the understanding hiring authorities are often elusive moving targets.
Are you getting facts or generalities? You obviously need facts. Ironically, what you need from the recruiter is what they need from you. The best recruiter-candidate relationships are built on respect – like all good relationships – and clear communication.
One last thought, probably the absolute key – once the process gets rolling, your sense of urgency needs to be amped up. Amped up! If your recruiter calls, you better call them back. A strong sense of urgency indicates interest and ultimately offers reassurance to the employer that you are serious – you control the sense of urgency that controls the inference whether you are REALLY serious, which influences whether you get this gig or your slightly more amped up competition does. Think. Please.
Specifics, Specifics.
22 FebYou just got out of the interview. You debrief yourself. You are feeling fairly good about how you answered the questions. You liked it because it didn’t feel like an interview – it was more of a conversation. Good.
Here is what I would like you to focus on and I SO wish we had gotten to talk about this before your interview. What did the interviewer say? NO! – not what do you think they said. What did they ACTUALLY say? What words did they use? The words matters. I see plenty of self-deceit in these moments, we need brutal honesty. Were you listening? Listen.
You feel good about your experience. Why? We need specifics. What specifics did they offer you or was it all general commentary? Anyone can get general commentary. You want specifics.
“I like your background.” “You certainly could do the job.” General. “I like your background in dealing with the implementation of…” – “I am glad to hear you have managed a team through a merger because we are in acquisition mode.” That is better.
We want to sell ourselves in specifics and we want to listen for specifics. If you want specific feedback, you better sell YOUR specifics. Just as facts on a resume serve as “speedbumps” to the reader, facts in the interview illicit more questions. More questions signal more interest. More interest signals more chance of you getting this offer. That is why you are interviewing, right?
This applies whether you are a construction superintendent, a CFO, a whatever. I had a construction superintendent tell me yesterday that his projects “were on time and under budget.” I was thinking, “that is what they all say.” I asked him, “Can you elaborate?” He then says, “My last project we finished in 11 months as opposed to the scheduled 13 and we made 14% intstead of 7%.” He goes on with this nugget, “I also ran 300 guys on that $40 million job with no lost work time due to accidents or safety issues.” I would say that sets him apart – specifically.
Specifics Sell. Are you just a construction superintendent or are you a construction superintendent ready to sell what you can do for the company?
3 Tough Questions
22 JanThey are coming. The questions – the big 3. The three questions you can’t stand that they always ask. The questions you hope they don’t ask. Those questions. The questions you better own.
What are they? You tell me. C’mon, job seeker – you tell me what they are. If the competition for jobs is greater than ever before and I believe it is – then the candidate (this is you) better be prepared better than EVER. You gotta prepare. You have to take the time on these 3 questions.
Meaningful work is hard to find – meaning you better mean it when you prepare. Your opportunities to present your skills can be few in this market.
The questions are coming. Why did you leave your last job, by the way? A new level of empathy exists for the job seeker but you still are going to have to answer this. Why did you leave? What did you learn while you were there? Yes, that is a question too, but it is where the answer to why you left ends up. You gotta answer why (brief) but I suggest gravitating quickly to something that reveals the perspective you gained. Potential employers like your acknowledgement of the bigger picture.
The questions are coming and they are individual in their focus. Here is the exercise – Look at your resume like you are hiring “you.” What would you ask you? What would you want to know about you? Now give you an answer – a great answer that flows. Practice it. Say it. Ask your significant other, spouse, close friend, an HR professional in your world to listen critically. The HR pro will have no issue listening critically. One last thing, does it make sense? Do your references support it? It has to flow.
We aren’t talking about how I can better develop sociopathic tendencies during my career transition to allow me to not flinch mid-interview. After all, the sociopath always gets the job – they just don’t keep it. I am simply saying, do your answers flow? Are you properly framing the discussion? You control their interpretation.
It isn’t just the words either – it is how you say them. Your abrasive tone that exists because of your bitterness needs to be harnessed. You gotta deal with that crap and the interviewer does not care about ALL THAT. This is not a time to take a shot at their hiring process either - you can resent it, just don’t express it in any way.
The questions depend on you, your career history and where you worked, how long you were there, what will you wear, the title that you had, the location that was bad, the travel you’ll accept, the hours you’ll work, the boss was a jerk – the questions, they lurk.
I don’t really know why I am rhyming – the job search is certainly about timing - maybe I am bored with my post – it is longer than most – yes, the questions will vary and I don’t mean to be arbitrary - so take this to heart and here’s a good place to start – with one that will definitely be asked by more than a few – TELL ME, WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO?


















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